High-Achieving Parents With An Anxious Or Depressed Child

Are you

    • Exhausted?
    • Seeing your child struggle with academic or social pressure.
    • Feeling angry and overwhelmed?
    • Not sure how to best help your child?
    • Worried that your child might try to harm themselves or attempt suicide?

Do You Want

    • Figure out how to help your child without overwhelming them
    • A healthy and stable relationship with your child
    • To be on the same page with your spouse?
    • To learn how to manage your emotions around all of this.
    • To not let the stress of raising a rise impact your work

If any of these things resonated for you, first I want you to know that I understand what you may be going through on multiple levels.

My Story As A High-Achieving Kid

I was that achieving Indian kid that parents would tell their kids, “Why can’t you be like Melvin.”

But most of those parents didn’t know is that I struggled with both anxiety and depression from middle school on.

In fact, I can still remember needing to have my table set in a certain way and my Dixon Ticonderoga pencil sharpened a certain way before I started on my Algebra 1 homework.

I remember pressure of AP classes, getting my National Honor Society hours, and getting good scores on the PSAT, SAT, and AP tests.

I graduated in the top 2% of my class, got 1 B in high school, and was able to secure a 90% academic scholarship to a private liberal arts college in Texas that was a feeder school for top medical schools in Texas.

But then life came crashing down.

I struggled academically with adjusting to being away from home.

After a C on an O-Chem test, I spiraled into depression and thought about taking my own life.

I had built my entire self worth on what I did academically.

I told my parents, and they had the foresight to recommend that I see a psychologist.
These meetings changed my life (and my career path).

How I Can Help You As A Parent

As I shared, I can understand on many levels what you’re going through especially now that I’m a parent.

You want to push your child to achieve what they can to be successful.

But you worry about the stress and pressure they’re under.

You’re not sure how to help them.

And any attempt at helping them is met with some version of, “Mom/dad, leave me alone.”

It’s a lot for us parents to navigate and even understand the pressures that our kids are under.

And it’s hard for our own identities to not get wrapped up in the successes and failures of our kids.

Think of our time less as “counseling” or “therapy” but more peak performance coaching.

This is a place where you can talk, and we can strategize about how to best help your child.

My Qualifications (Personal And Professional)

    • I completed my pre-doctoral internship (residency) and post-doctoral fellowship at Vanderbilt University.
    • I was offered a full-time position at Vandy as a psychologist, but my wife and I moved to Philly to be closer to family.
    • I was on Vanderbilt’s Mental Health Crisis Response Team where we navigated the suicide of a student and of a faculty member.
    • I’m a very active dad in our daughter’s life. During summers, Fridays are dedicated to Daddy-Daughter days where we explore museums, gardens, and eat good food.
    • Being a founder of a successful online business, I’m at the cutting edge of education and where it’s going.
    • So I use a lot of things I’m learning to help our daughter reach her full potential both academically but personally as well. And, of course, I’m happy to share all of this with you during our time.

Cost, Length, and How to Pay

I offer personalized sessions designed to address the specific challenges of entrepreneur dads.

  • How Much? Each 50-minute session costs $400.
  • How Long? This varies but I’ve found that typically parents feel significantly better and equipped to help their child after 3-6 sessions.
  • How to Pay? You can pay with cash or check or use a health savings card (FSA/HSA) or check if your insurance can help cover the cost through Out Of Network Benefits. If you’re using Out Of Network Benefits, I work with a company that will let you know how much your out of pocket cost will be, and this company will submit everything on your behalf so you don’t have to jump through hoops with insurance.

 

Next Steps:

Please email me at hello@melvinvarghesephd.com to set up a time for us to chat. Please note that I only see clients on Wednesdays on the hour from 9 AM-12 PM EST.

Online (video) counseling for residents of AL, AZ, AR, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, & WY.