I’m nervous about starting therapy. Is that normal?

Therapy can be vulnerable and new, so it’s natural to be nervous. Please know that I’ve been on both sides of the “couch” and will work hard to make sure you feel safe and comfortable. It can be difficult to imagine the words around what you are feeling. Maybe you’ve experienced feeling tongue-tied when trying to open up to friends or loved ones in the past. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. Getting the counseling we need can be challenging. And although it’s normal to be nervous, that doesn’t make it feel great. It takes courage to continue towards getting the help you need.

Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and feel safe from judgement, including feeling nervous. I’m committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.

I’m here if you want to talk about it during a free phone consultation.

How do I know if you are the right therapist for me?

Take your time to read through my website and check out my podcast and YouTube channel. If you sense that I may be a good fit based on what you are reading, you can Email me.

During a free phone consultation, you can ask me questions about my approach, about how I have helped other people like you before, or any other questions you may have that are specific-to-you. You’ll also be able to discuss what’s on your mind and we can determine how I could best be of service to you.

It may be helpful to think of the first few sessions as trying out the waters together. During the sessions, you’ll be able to understand how comfortable you feel in sessions. My approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important to me is that you find someone who you feel is the right fit for you. We can explore that together.

What if I don't want to talk about something?

It’s natural to not want to share some of the painful or difficult things we’ve been through.. During our sessions, if you don’t want to talk about something, your don’t have to. We will collaborate on understanding what you feel ready to open up about. Together we will work through the difficult stuff.

You can also share with me that you are nervous to open up about something and we can talk about that too. Whenever you have a lot of feelings about something, you are welcome to discuss them in session with me.

I’m scared that if I open up, you will think I’m crazy.

If you open up to me, I will not think you are crazy, I will think you are extremely brave and strong. Many of my clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are crazy).

Through my own life journey and working with my clients, I know how ‘normal’ your experience is.

I believe you. Nothing you can say will cause me to judge you.

I know many of us are overwhelmed, we all struggle, we might be emotionally drained from the ups and downs.

Whatever it is you’re going through, I provide a calming space where I respect you and and listen with focus and compassion

Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?

You may be concerned that your friends, family, or work colleagues could learn what you have said during therapy. So you should know that unless you are suicidal, harming yourself, or someone else, what you say in sessions stays between you and me.

There is nothing more important than your privacy.

You can rest assured that you can talk about anything without fear of that information getting out.

If you have specific questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask during your during a free phone consultation or anytime during our work together.

How long will therapy take?

You might be asking about how long therapy will take because therapy is hard to fit into your busy schedule.

If this is true for you, I want you to know that on average, my new clients start seeing positive effects after the first 3-5 sessions.

By that point, they they feel a little more confident in themselves

The total duration of therapy varies from client to client. Some of my clients find 6-12 weeks to be enough to reach their goals. While other clients feel more supported by longer term therapy.

We will work together to find the length of time that works for you.

What can I expect during the first session?

Overall, you can think of the first session as a free-flowing conversation through which we start getting to know each other. I’ll invite you to share more about yourself and we can also talk about what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.

Some questions that I like to ask during a first session include:

  • What brought you to therapy?
  • Have you gone to therapy before? How did that go?
  • What goals would you like to reach by going to therapy?

You can ask me questions as well. You might be curious about about my experice or how future sessions work.

The most important part of a first session is that you see if you feel I’m a good fit for you. If you feel safe, accepted, and comfortable with me, we can discuss if you’d like to meet again.

Will be in person or via telehealth?

All sessions are 100% telehealth.

Where are you licensed?

I’m licensed as a psychologist in Pennsylvania but can see residents of Alabama, Arizona, Arkanasas, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Washington DC, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, & WY.

What can I expect during the first session?
How can I get started?

I’m here to talk during a free phone consultation where you can discuss what’s on your mind and we can determine how I could best be of service to you.

Email me today to get your free phone consultation at hello@melvinvarghesephd.com.